Monday, December 14, 2009

~Broken Relationships~

After reading the novel "why men lie & women cry" by Allen & Barbara Pease. Here are one of the paragraph directly from that book.

"If we look into the ancient history, women evolved as child-bearers and nest-defenders and as a result, female brain became hardweired to nurture, nourish, love and care for the people in their lives. Men evolved with a completely different job descriptions- they were hunters, chasers, protectors, providrs and problem-solvers. It makes sense that male and female brains are hardwiered for different functions and priorities.
              Women write most of the books on human relationships, and over 80% of the purchases are female. To a neutral observer, this may give the impression that women care more about relationships than men. In many ways, this is right. The concept of focusing on a relationship is not a natural part of the male psyche, thinking or scale of priorities. Consequently, men either don't try at all with relationships or they give up early, because they find the way women think and act too complex. It sometimes seems all too hard and its easier to quit early than be seen as failure. But, the truth is that men want good, healthy, fulfilling relationships just as much as women. They simply assume that one day a perfect relationship will come along, without the need for prior study or preparation. Women regularly make the mistake of assuming that just because a man loves her, he must also understand her, but he usually don't."
This is why most of the relationships are breaking in the recent days. Both "men and women" are having different structure of brain and they are different by their thinking, doing the things and all. Both have to understand each other for a healthy reationship.


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